The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together
By Daphne de Marneffe, PhD
Daphne de Marneffe, PhD, works as a psychologist. She offers help to individuals and couples, she teaches them how to live together and save their marriages. She organizes therapy for couples, adult development, lectures about marriage and parenthood. Daphne works for the Parents magazine as a contributing editor. Her articles many times have been featured in The Orphan Magazine, The New York Times, and on NPR and Google Talks. She has published her researches and scholarly works in many different professional journals. Marneffe is the author of Maternal Desire: On Children, Love, and the Inner Life. She is happily married, together with her husband she lives in San Francisco Bay Area. They have three children.
Nowadays people try to maintain their marriage alliances as long as it possible, but let’s be honest it is not that easy, especially when our marriages are in so called “midlife period”. During this period, we have so many pulls and our individuality sometimes crashes headlong into the requirements of our relationships. This is what Daphne de Marneffe explores in her brilliant and optimistic book: The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living together. Her book is written with good intentions and contains helpful advices for couples who have lived in their marriage for some decent period of time. But be sure that even those who you are not married yet will be able to find an answers for their questions.
The Rough Path talks about common problems: the stress of parenthood, money, sex, alcohol and drugs, health, children leaving home, lovesickness, aging, extramarital affairs. De Marneffe uses her wisdom about these problems to explain us the emotional, psychological and relational qualities that we must grow to overcome those problems alone or together with our partners. By blending her experience, interviews, researches and clinical experience the author provides us with detailed information about the structure of relationships.
This book is a compassionate resource for those people who are trying to understand problems in their marriage. De Marneffe writes with wit and compassion that can only be seen in poetry. The Rough Path: Marriage and the Art of Living Together manifests here beliefs that me must fight for true love, it is remarkable for its combination of charity and warmth. It can also be recommended for young couples who would like to avoid future problems. Because it is introducing a wide range of warning signs that can lead to problems.
There is no doubt that de Marneffe’s wide-ranging knowledge of parent and child relationships, human psychology along with her great experience allow her to create the book (The Rough Patch) that can be a useful guide for those who study psychology and can provide people with deeper understanding and appreciation of their own marriages with singles ladyes.